Outspoken blogger and mum Constance Hall has made a name for herself for her honest observations on parenthood. And while there are some murmurings online from those who say ‘her 15 minutes are up’, we think she’s great – she’s getting difficult topics argued and discussed, she’s calling bull**** on the, well, bull****, and she’s helping mums feel empowered.
And that’s precisely what she did when she shared a viral post recently smashing misconceptions about single mothers (Constance was raised by a single mum and went through a period herself of single motherhood).
In the post she set out a seven-point list titled ‘Single mum myth busting’ in her unique, inimitable style (and we love her for it):
Single mum myth busting
1) They don't want a new dad for their kids. The kids have a dad and in the instances where they don't, Queens sort that job too. #legend.
2) Their kids aren't disadvantaged. The only disadvantage children of single parents face is the knowledge that their mum is being judged. Kids are clever, they pick up on that s**t.
3) They aren't always broke. Single mums often work, often make a f**k load of cash, some drink Grey Goose and wear Chanel, others drink goon and don't wear much, it's called #variety.
4) They aren't uncomfortable around couples. Single mums aren't uncomfortable around couples or dogs or fire engines or sandwiches. Weird I know.
5) They didn't f**k anything up. Anybody could wake up tomorrow and become a single parent, whether they chose it or not, anyone. High horses are for tw**s.
6) Their kids aren't baggage. Children are assets and women who raise them on their own have very strong instincts, they won't give a bloke who sees their kids as baggage a look in. #next
7) They don't want your husbands. They didn't spend all this time getting rid of theirs and supporting their kids and working their arses off to have to wake up next to your farting, snoring, horny delight. He is all yours.
During my short stint of single motherhood a couple of years ago I felt like I wasn't in the mum crew, but I wasn't in the single friend crew either... I was #crewless (like clueless but I didn't have 2 mates) I didn't need pity because I was actually kicking goals and rocking out, it is tough but the toughest part is the stigma.
#queencrew is where it's all.
Today I'm saluting single mums. I was raised by one, I respect them and I admire the s**t out of them.
Pretty much SPOT ON Constance, and bloody funny too! Keep doing what you're doing.
