Like many brave war heroes before me, I know that entering a war zone or battle requires much strategic planning and preparation. It’s every woman for herself, there can be only one winner. Make sure it’s you.

 

Yes, I’m talking about parenting a two-year-old.

 

Oh, he might seem harmless, sitting there with his cute little button nose and big blue eyes gazing up at you, but don't be fooled! These creatures are deceptive. They rope you in and make you remember all the cute adorable things you love about them, and then make you wonder how you made something so precious in the first place.

 

And just as all your stupid mushy related hormones are making you melt in a puddle of maternal pride and joy. They scream in your face and wipe their snot all over your clothes.

 

Yes, you’ve just been Toddlered.

 

People don’t give two-year-olds enough credit. They are highly intelligent and strategic. You must be on guard at all times.

 

Let's start with the basics.

 

 

1. The first tactic is Distraction.

 

This is key – they’ll fire whinge after whinge, demand after demand.

 

Be vigilant and stay focused! You must deploy the Distraction tactic at once. I suggest you point out an aeroplane flying overhead, doesn’t matter if there is one or not, they love aeroplanes and helicopters and pretty much anything in the sky. This should buy you enough time to think of a new topic or activity for them to do. This also works well if they’re on the verge of a tantrum – it is your responsibility, soldier, to recognise the signs in your own toddlers.

 

2. Sticks!

 

They love sticks – find a stick, preferably near a puddle, their day is made, and you will have averted disaster. Sticks and puddles will save you.

 

3. Bribery

 

This is one of your best weapons. But use it wisely –  they’ll know when you’re bluffing. You need to be prepared to follow this one through. For example, ‘for the love of God stop that!! If you stop that we can go to the playground later’.

 

4. Swings  

 

Now unless you’re willing to go to that playground and move endlessly from swings to the roundabout and back again and socialise with other mini dictators, withhold the bribe. Basically, you’ll never know peace again otherwise. They have memories like elephants and that’s all there is to it. But beware with Bribery. It could put you on a slippery slope to Expectation. Bribery must only be used in extreme cases, or really you’re not doing yourself any favours, and even worse, they’ll essentially have taken away some of your best tools!

 

5. Choose Your Battles

 

This is a war, it consists of many many battles. Some you’ll win, some you’ll lose, but choose them wisely.

 

Measure up the pros and cons. He wants to paint his head green? Let him do it if it keeps him quiet and you get a chance to feed child number two in peace.

 

Does he want to skip his nap? Hell no, this one is yours! You will not deprive me of that hour of peace! In short, I suggest you make sure you’re winning more of the battles than you lose. Apart from anything else, I just don’t like losing anyway.

 

6. Reverse Psychology

 

This one takes a bit of practice.

 

It’s all about outwitting and outlasting. You want them to eat the dinner you’ve just slaved over – but you can't let them know how much you want this. Approach it casually; I'm just going to leave this dinner over here. Talk a bit to yourself about how nice the dinner is. Child two comes in quite handy here – ask him does he want some. He can’t talk yet, so naturally, you pretend that he will eat the whole thing. Mr Potato Head LOVES this dinner. But hey if you don’t want it, no problem. They’ll look at you suspiciously, yes they’re probably onto you, but curiosity and fear of missing out usually – not always– but usually, wins out. 

 

 

7. Patience - This is the hardest one of all

 

You’ll need A LOT of it.

 

You’ll think you have none, you’ll feel the pressure…but hang on in there! You can do this! They are TWO! You are.. well there’s no need to get into specifics here, but you’re a lot older than two years old. You’ve a lifetime of wisdom to work from. They, on the other hand, think they can put their hands over their eyes and turn completely invisible to the human eye.

 

I admit I can lose the plot like the best of them, but I still try and that’s the main thing, right?

 

 

It’s a bit like doing that horrific plank move at the gym. At first, you can only manage a fraction of a second. But before you know it, after say 5 years or so, you can hold it for a good 10 seconds! Patience is the same, it comes with practice and for me, it’s an ongoing project. But I didn’t get where I am today with no patience, so take heart!

 

Remember soldier – we’re all in this together at the end of the day! We are all the heads of our own little army – all fighting the same battles, and winning and losing the same ones in the process. But at the end of a long day, when those little arms are around your neck and those mushy hormones are rushing back in…..well let them. Why else do we do this after all?

 

This is Jen’s Survival Guide. Fight the good fight. Learn it. Print it. Stick it on your fridge. Most of all, stay strong - you're doing a great job.

 

Mission complete

 

 

Jen is a 30-something, married, mother of two gorgeous boys and two dogs - she writes her blog named The Scenic Route. She loves photography, cheesy stuff (including the music), and is fond of a coffee or two!

This blog was originally created as a source of self-help during fertility issues and treatment. Jen says it kept her sane. Now, its focus is about figuring out parenting and all it brings.

 

If you want to get involved in blogging with our new MummyPages Voices community of mums contact Amanda.Cassidy@MummyPages.com 

19 Shares

Latest

Trending

Hello Mama!
Help us help you by allowing us and our partners to remember your device as having browsed MummyPages and serve you better content and ads

We're on a mission to help our mums and their families thrive by informing, connecting and entertaining.

Join us in our mission by consenting to the use of cookies and IP address recognition by us and our partners to serve you content (including ads) best suited to your interests, both here and around the web.

We promise never to share any other information that may be deemed personal unless you explicitly tell us it's ok.

If you want more info, see our privacy policy.