Once the trust in a relationship is broken it can be hard to get it back.
Whether it was an affair or another kind of lie it can be difficult to put it behind you and move on, but not impossible. If both of you really want the relationship to work, the following tips can help get back one of the most important things - trust.
Admit the mistake
First things first, make sure whoever broke the trust admits what they did. Taking responsibility for it and apologising are the first steps to moving on.
Talk about it
It is so important you talk about the problem which made you lose trust in the first place. If you or your partner cheated, it is vital you are as open and honest with your feelings as possible. While feelings of hurt, anger and rage will be a part of the conversation they don’t have to be the only part.
Be as open as you can
If needs be give your other half your phone, email and social media accounts and passwords so that nothing is kept hidden. A simple text message from someone you or they don’t know can set the relationship back again.
When you admit that you want the relationship to work, it is important to remember that it won’t happen overnight or even in a few weeks. Things like rebuilding trust can take a few weeks, months or even years. Take your time.
Be there for each other
If you have decided that you are not about to give up on your relationship, you need to be there for each other, now more than ever. Remember important details, send ‘I’m thinking of you’ texts and help them with deadlines or jobs.