‘Stop making excuses for men’: Mum calls out 'guy' for his...

You would think that people had learned by now, but there are some men and women out there who still insist on calling out public breastfeeding.

We bet no one will dare to criticise mum Kelly Stanley again, however, after her recent experience while out dining at a restaurant.

In a post on her Instagram page, the yoga enthusiast revealed that a man at her own table threw a cloth over her when she began nursing her nine-month-old daughter, Maya.

So. I was at dinner last night and, as always, had my baby with me. Maya (9 months) was getting irritable, and I knew what she needed. She needed to nurse, so of course I pull my shirt down to feed and comfort her. Some one at the dinner table then grabs one of those cloth napkins and tries to toss it over me. I asked him what he was doing, and he said he was trying to cover me. We were at Bonefish, and apparently that is too "nice" of a restaurant to nurse a baby uncovered. I wish I could say I was polite and respectful about the situation. Actually, I lied. I don't wish that. I went off on him and I'm glad I did. You know why? Because the gesture was humiliating. Because no woman should ever feel like she is being inappropriate or immodest by feeding her baby, anywhere, ever. Breastfeeding is NOT indecent exposure. It's not inviting men to gawk at my breasts. EVEN IF GOD FORBID THE BABY UNLATCHES AND THEY SEE MY BARE NIPPLE. No, I'd rather not pull my shirt down in a public place or a nice restaurant. I'd rather people NOT see my stretch marked breast or scratched nipples. But you know what? We can't sit here and tout that breast is best and then have a fit about how inappropriate it is to feed a baby in public. You can't expect women to WANT to breastfeed and then shew them to the car when their baby gets hungry, or expect them to let the baby wail in hunger or need. Babies are notorious for wanting to eat (or comfort) at the most inconvenient and AWKWARD times. And most of them hate to be covered! Breastfeeding is a normal and natural thing, and if someone has a problem with me feeding my child whenever and wherever, that is THEIR problem. It should NEVER be the breastfeeding mom's problem. They continued to say that I needed to be considerate of those who might be offended (men who sexualize breastfeeding )and I'm over here thinking it's the men who should be considerate and not sexualize breastfeeding. We need to stop making excuses for men and start expecting them to act like mature human beings who are capable of being in control of themselves. Grrr don't poke the mom bear...... . . . leggings by @omgiyoga

A photo posted by Kelly Stanley 24 yrs (@kellymarie_yoga) on Sep 11, 2016 at 5:55pm PDT

Her reaction? She ‘went off on him’, and she went on to explain why she is so glad she did.

“The gesture was humiliating. Because no woman should ever feel like she is being inappropriate or immodest by feeding her baby, anywhere, ever,” she wrote.

Blasting all those who think otherwise, Kelly added: “Breastfeeding is NOT indecent exposure. It’s not inviting men to gawk at my breasts. Even if, God forbid, the baby unlatches and they see my bare nipple.”

A photo posted by Kelly Stanley 24 yrs (@kellymarie_yoga) on Aug 22, 2016 at 7:19pm PDT

Kelly went on to rally for a change in attitude, insisting that we can’t insist that ‘breast is best’ and then publicly criticise those who embrace that approach.

“We need to stop making excuses for men and start expecting them to act like mature human beings who are capable of being in control themselves,” she said.