Are you often told you’re too nice? And why when you hear it are you confused by the negative connotations to that statement? Surely it’s nice to be nice?

 

Well yes, it is, but not when you’re wrecked tired after working and doing mum things all week yet you find yourself up until 3am making 20 apple tarts for the kids’ school fundraiser.

 

It’s nice to be nice, but it’s also nice to respect yourself, put yourself first at times, and speak up when you’re not happy, no matter the reaction. So with that in mind, here are our tips to help you achieve a happy medium in 2017:

 

 

1. Stop saying “sorry” all the time

 

Has someone ever bumped into you yet it’s YOU who says sorry? Or even if something’s not your fault do you find yourself apologising? We know you’re just trying to be polite – but when you make yourself take responsibility for something you didn’t do, you’re excusing another person’s behaviour, and placing unfair blame on your shoulders.

 

2. Learn to say no

 

Baking those 20 apple tarts, minding your friend’s kids even though you don’t have the time, giving money to buy presents for the girl in work even though you're broke – yes, you want to be kind and make other people happy, but when it stresses or tires YOU, you need to start putting yourself first and saying NO.

 

 

3. Prioritise YOU

 

We know you love your kids, your partner and your family, but by putting them first and neglecting yourself, you’re not allowing yourself to be the best you. Your goals, dreams and aspirations are just as important as those of the people in your life, and if you push them aside it’s very possible you will eventually become not only resentful towards them, but mad at yourself.

 

4. Respect yourself

 

In your work and family life do you find yourself agreeing to do the unpleasant jobs, simply because you know others won’t want to? Yep, you’re a saint, we get that, but why should you have to be lumped with the stuff no one else wants? Ironically the more you do, the more people can take it for granted, and begin to take advantage.

 

 

5. Hold people accountable for their bad behaviour

 

Yes, to err is human, to forgive divine, but what if someone is really taking the mick? Forgiving someone who deserves it is one thing, but justifying someone’s bad behaviour because you want to avoid confrontation is another.

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