Stretch marks are widely considered a scourge of women all over the world, but they are a fact of life for the majority of us – so why should we dwell on that, and let it make us unhappy?
This is the question posed by mum-of-two Neram Curly, who has decided to own her ‘tiger stripes’ and love her body, ‘flaws’ and all.
Neram, who blogs over at The Real Little Birds’ Mama, took to Instagram to share a photo of her post-pregnancy stretch marks and how she came to accept them as part of her ‘new body’.
I didn't get any stretch marks during my first pregnancy. Ok, there two small ones that appeared after the birth underneath my bellybutton but as sudden as they had become visible they did also fade and disappear. The second time, it was different. I discovered stretch marks during my third trimester. There were more of them and I knew that these would stay, that they'd be permanent and there wasn't anything that I could do to change that. So in all those weeks before the birth, I had time to get used to them, learn to accept them and love them as being part of my new body - the body of this mother of two. I am sure that having had all this time and me letting go of something that I wouldn't had been able to change anyway did help speed up this acceptance and love process. But I am also sure that it's been the wonderful work of women such as @alex_elle and her page @loveyourlines as well as the super sweet @dahs who have made this transition easier for me. I believe that sharing our experiences with each other does influence us in a positive way. When we do that we help and empower each other and that's what I like here on social media. I have never loved my body more than now...and believe me, I wouldn't have thought that back when I was 20 years old! #iamallwoman #mama #momsofinstagram #instamom #momswithcameras #loveyourlines #pregnancy #pregnant #birth #birthofamama #tribedemama #stretchmarks #postpartum #mindfulmamas #empoweringwomen #sisterhood #honestmotherhood #motherhood #motheroftwo #momoftwo #selfie #momlife #mummylife #selfcare #fourthtrimester #baby #maman #normalizebreastfeeding #littlebirdsmama #thereallittlebirdsmama
Neram explains that, while she was lucky enough to largely escape stretch marks during her first pregnancy, it was a different situation the second time around.
During the third trimester of her second pregnancy, Neram began to notice a lot more stretch marks across her stomach.
“There were more of them, and I knew that these would stay; that they’d be permanent and there wasn’t anything that I could do to change that,” she wrote.
So, Neram used that time before Baby’s birth to ‘learn to accept them and love them as being part of her new body – the body of this mother-of-two’.
“I am sure that having had all this time, and me letting go of something that I wouldn’t have been able to change anyway did help speed up this acceptance and love process,” added Neram.
Of course, the bravery of other women also encouraged Neram to speak out – and now, she wants others to inspire their fellow mums.
“I have never loved my body more than now…and believe me, I wouldn’t have thought that back when I was 20 years old!” admitted the loving mum.
Now THIS is a message we can get down with.
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