Mum of four, Adrian, has written a letter to "perfect mums" and we are loving it. 


She is the woman behind the blog Tales of an Educated Debutante, who recently took to Facebook to vent her frustrations at the horde of "perfect mums" that seem to be appearing on social media.



In her post, she hits back at "those perfect photos, the mouths open in laughter, smartly coifed children, all of you a picture of happiness": 


"You're not fooling anyone, we know that there was tyrannical complaining, crying, and pleas for help because starched clothes and sand are an itchy combination, not to mention the scorching sun slowly melting your family. You can't fool the sisterhood you've abandoned." 


She continues to challenge the "formidable group" asking them to "let down their guard a little bit":


"We are all being sucked dry by tiny humans, yet you insist on starring in the Sound of Music. And to what end? No rewards, no medals, no cash prize, not even a certificate with your name in calligraphy. Nothing, not one iota of praise unless you count a kind word or two on your tombstone."



According to Adrian, this is also harmful to other mothers, by putting them under pressure to be "perfect": 


"Meanwhile, members of the sisterhood are dropping like flies, becoming second guessing, nail biting and wine guzzling disasters, trying to keep up and destined for failure. None are perfect and no matter how good one is at pretending, the tides of real life find us all and you don't want to be left all alone."



She says that life is hard enough without this needless pressure: 


"I'm telling you, real life means illness or a baby that you didn't order or maybe the baby never showed up and neither did the marriage. Perhaps you have parents that will need you too soon, a husband that decided family wasn't his cup of tea, or that job you loved, well, maybe it no longer loves you."


"Real trumps perfect every time."


Readers are loving it, and other mum's shared how they feel about the pressure to be perfect: 



A perfect reminder to keep it real. 



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