One mum has shared the genius way she taught her children about consent. Taking to Reddit, the clever parent explained how she taught her 14-year-old and 10-year-old sons about the importance of consent.
She said she has always had open conversations with her children about sex, puberty and bodies and having constant conversations about these topics is vital.
The mum shared that recently they have had an issue where her daughter has asked her younger brother to stop going in her room at night.
“They have always been very close since they are only 17 months apart and at night sometimes laugh and watch videos or read books, etc. But she’s just started puberty and doesn’t feel comfortable anymore,” the mum explained
“However, my youngest son will still show up in her room sometimes when he can’t sleep or wants to use her iPad/charger, etc.”
Her son went into her room again this week and the mum’s daughter was really upset.
“At that point we gave him an ultimatum that if it happened again he would lose device time for a week. My oldest son (14) overheard and came to his brother’s defense and said “that’s not fair, she’s always telling him to come to her room so they can watch videos and I hear them talking and laughing in there and now she’s gonna suddenly say he can’t and he’s gonna get in trouble?”
This is when the mum told her two sons how important asking for consent is: “Just because somebody invites you over one time, doesn’t mean you’re invited over forever. They are allowed to tell you when it is and isn’t ok for you to come over, and you have to respect that,” she explained to her boys.
She continued: “Anybody has the right to say they aren’t enjoying something anymore, at any time, even if they were previously enjoying it, and you have to listen and respect that and stop.
“And most importantly, before doing something with someone, you need to get consent, every time, and sleeping/passed out people can’t give consent.”
The mum said this obviously wasn’t about sexual consent but teaching her children about boundaries and respect and privacy are ultimately conversations about consent.
“We have to keep having them over and over so the lines never get blurred,” she stressed.