And while we have definitely all said these at one time or another, it is important to make a conscious effort to stop or at least change our ways.
1. "Don’t you want to win?"
It shouldn’t be about winning or losing, but rather the taking part. And while you might think differently, this question won’t motivate your child but rather it will encourage them to show defiance.
2. "Don’t you want to get better?"
We all know practice makes perfect but rather than asking if they want to get better, you need to make it something that is enjoyable and fun.
3. "Why can’t you do it?"
If your child is struggling to do something, you need to offer reassurance rather than questioning their ability to do it. Instead, talk about any issues that might be preventing them from reaching their full potential and help them.
4." Why can’t you be more like your sibling?"
Comparing your kids to each other is not going to help anyone - all of them have their own individual personalities, strengths and weaknesses.
5. "What did you do today? "
By all means ask your children about their day but rather than asking open ended questions like this you should be more specific, so they will be more likely to engage in conversation. Try asking what they learned or who they played with in yard - these kinds of questions are easily and more likely answered.
