Children who have close bonds with their primary caregivers go on to be happier and more successful.
And mums who have close relationships with their kids are much happier too.
So, what can you do to encourage a close bond between you and your little one? Read on...
Be real
Great relationships are built on honesty, caring and communication, so be genuine with your child. Don't say things you don't mean. Sure, honesty can cause uneasiness from time to time, but it's better than the comfort from deceit.
Share information about yourself
You can't be close to someone if you don't really know them, so it's important to share details about you and your life, including what you got up to in the past. They weren't there then, remember?
When they're a bit older, the conversation will likely turn to things like sex and drugs, but don't be put off. This is your chance to mention things you learned the hard way, and want your child to avoid...
Show interest
Kids know that we care about them when we take an interest in them, and that means all of them - their thoughts, feelings and things they like to do. Ask them what they think about things, remembering not to plump for simple 'yes' or 'no' questions.
Try starting sentences with 'what' or how.' But don't barrage them with questions at the same time. If you do, they'll likely tune right out...
Follow your child's lead
What you want to talk about, your child might not. With this in mind, take your lead from your little one. If you try to ignite a discussion about sport and your child's eyes start wandering, take the hint. Trying to force an interest in something will only drive your child away.
Don't just talk. Do stuff.
It's often said that people truly bond by doing things together, so get out and about and do stuff with each other. In a perfect world, you'll both enjoy all of the same things, but that's unlikely, so try to choose activities that your child likes (and that you can put up with). Your patience will pay off in the end.
Use the L word.
But don't just use the L word. There's no point in telling your child you love them if you don't show it, and to show it, you need to do at least some of the above...
