Hello Secondary Infertility
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I have a mission. A mission of mercy for many. Well that's my belief.
I spend £20,000, underwent 4 rounds of painful and invasive treatment and wrote a flippin' book about my experience, before I realised my condition even had a name! Secondary Infertility.
Of course I read and researched but I looked under, Fertility, IVF and Trying for a Second Baby - never once did I come across the term Secondary Infertility. And yet, this silent world has many unfortunate members. Thousands of women struggling with the frustration, guilt and shame at already having a child but desperate for another.
Secondary Infertilty is hugely common, yet rarely understood or spoken about. You feel isolated and distant form the fertile, baby world that you long to be part of and yet you are cast aside from the Infertility community, who see you as already being lucky. It is this unfortunate No Mans Land feeling that causes many sufferers to remain silent, alone with their struggle to deal with their complex emotions. And because of the overwhelming lack of empaphy from those around, there is often no alternative but to shut themselves away and endure the immense pain and grief alone, in silence.
Having written my 90,000 word memoir and regular blog, I have uncovered many women in the same boat. Now comfortable hiding behind social media to admit they want more, confess that they are not satisfied with just one baby and scream in the comfort of their own home that at last someone understands them - and it's OK to want more. They should not feel guilty. They should not feel shame.
And so my mission? To follow the well beaten path led by 'Depression' to drag unfortunate stigmas into the light and enable sufferers to identify with their condition, feel brave enough to admit it and finally, be at peace with themselves and start to seek help by addressing the issues.
Secondary Infertility is still Infertility. I would love it if you could please Like my FB page (More Love To Give - an IVF memoir) so that I can show publishers there is support, there is a market and there is a need for this support.
I'll regularly post on here too but if you have any questions I'm always here. x
I spend £20,000, underwent 4 rounds of painful and invasive treatment and wrote a flippin' book about my experience, before I realised my condition even had a name! Secondary Infertility.
Of course I read and researched but I looked under, Fertility, IVF and Trying for a Second Baby - never once did I come across the term Secondary Infertility. And yet, this silent world has many unfortunate members. Thousands of women struggling with the frustration, guilt and shame at already having a child but desperate for another.
Secondary Infertilty is hugely common, yet rarely understood or spoken about. You feel isolated and distant form the fertile, baby world that you long to be part of and yet you are cast aside from the Infertility community, who see you as already being lucky. It is this unfortunate No Mans Land feeling that causes many sufferers to remain silent, alone with their struggle to deal with their complex emotions. And because of the overwhelming lack of empaphy from those around, there is often no alternative but to shut themselves away and endure the immense pain and grief alone, in silence.
Having written my 90,000 word memoir and regular blog, I have uncovered many women in the same boat. Now comfortable hiding behind social media to admit they want more, confess that they are not satisfied with just one baby and scream in the comfort of their own home that at last someone understands them - and it's OK to want more. They should not feel guilty. They should not feel shame.
And so my mission? To follow the well beaten path led by 'Depression' to drag unfortunate stigmas into the light and enable sufferers to identify with their condition, feel brave enough to admit it and finally, be at peace with themselves and start to seek help by addressing the issues.
Secondary Infertility is still Infertility. I would love it if you could please Like my FB page (More Love To Give - an IVF memoir) so that I can show publishers there is support, there is a market and there is a need for this support.
I'll regularly post on here too but if you have any questions I'm always here. x
