It seems kids are becoming more grown up at an earlier age which means back chat and disrespectfulness occurs well before the teenage years.
However, while it is a part of growing up and something they will learn over time, when your little one is not respectful towards you it can be particularly frustrating.
1. Don’t treat them like your friend
You are the parent and they are the child.
2. Make sure you and your partner are on the same page
There is no point in one of you teaching one thing while the other allows disrespectful behaviour - it just sends mixed messages and your child will get confused.
3. Teach them basic manners
Make sure your child knows and uses basic manners like "please", "thank you" and "excuse me" not just with teachers and people they meet but within the home and when talking to you.
4. Be respectful towards them
You also need to be respectful towards them; Be mannerly when talking or disciplining and be mindful of your own attitude when talking to other people.
5. Be realistic
Your child is likely to forget to use their manners or lash out from time to time, throwing all respect out the window. However, it is important to keep in mind the age of your child and to remember that they are trying.
6. Correct disrespectful behaviour
As your little grows and they are exposed to more and more outside influences they can start to test their boundaries. It is important you are consistent in correcting disrespectful behaviour. Your son or daughter will only learn what is acceptable and what isn’t if you tell them.
7. Be consistent
Consistency is key when it comes to teaching kids so they always know what is expected of them. If you correct then one time but not the next time you are sending mixed messages.
8. Don’t make it all about rules
Your child will eventually stop listening to you if you keep nagging to them to behave a certain way. While they do will need reminding every now and then, it is better to teach with praise and love than constantly telling them what they should and shouldn’t do.