Don’t dress them the same way
Unless they want to, don’t dress your little ones the same way every day, including for parties or special occasions - one might like wearing dresses while the other prefers trousers. Putting similar outfits on them also lets outsiders think it is ok to recognise and refer to them as one person.
Let them have their own interests
Just like siblings born years apart, your twins are going to have different interests from the person they shared your womb with. Foster these different interests and let them do things without the other.
Don’t refer to them as 'the twins'
Make sure people are aware that your twins don’t come as one unit by not referring to them as 'the twins'. If you do other people will assume that you find this acceptable and it will be difficult for your kids to shake off the name.
Don’t label them
If your twins are identical, it can be easy to refer to them as the girly one or the boyish one. But don’t. While usually unintentional, labels put people into boxes and your children will find it difficult to try new things that don’t fit into the names/labels you have given them.
Do things with them separately
Try to spend time with each of them individually. This way it will be easier to see them as separate and not just one unit. Let them choose an activity that they are interested in and you will truly be able to see who your son or daughter is away from their other half.
