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How can I tell if my toddler is coming down with flu?

When adults get the flu, there’s a good chance that they know the symptoms – and can share them with their doctor. However, when your toddler is getting the flu, it’s up to you as the parent to spot the signs, and take the appropriate action. Here are a few of the more common signs of flu that you should look out for in your toddler.
Your toddler develops a sudden fever. Fevers associated with flu tend to come on more suddenly than those associated with colds, as do other flu symptoms.
Vomiting is another common sign of flu, although it can also be a symptom of gastroenteritis.
Chills tend to accompany the high fevers associated with flu, with your toddler alternating between burning up and shivering.
Your toddler is likely to be listless and lethargic, and complain of fatigue.
A runny nose and a dry cough are two of the common respiratory symptoms that accompany flu.
Although flu is treatable, and preventable to some degree, thanks to vaccines and other medical advances, children do still end up in hospital because of flu. If you suspect that your toddler has flu, it’s best to visit your doctor as soon as possible.

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