Try to introduce your toddler to your new baby as soon as possible after giving birth. Get your child’s caregiver to ask your child if they would like to bring some flowers for mommy or perhaps a little something for the new baby - this will immediately make your toddler feel like they are involved.
 
Hospitals can seem huge and scary to small children, so be sure to keep the visits as short as possible. These should be special visits that only involve your child and the caregiver. Your child might become very unhappy when the visits are over, so make sure that the caregiver has something planned once the visit is over, such as a special outing.
 
If it is at all possible, try to not be busy with your new baby when your toddler arrives so that you can greet them properly before showing them the new baby. However, if you are busy feeding your baby when your child arrives, let them see the baby feeding and let them see and touch his tiny feet and hands, even while the baby is nursing. Let your child have as much contact as possible with the new baby.
 
There is a good chance that your toddler will think that the new baby has taken over that special place in mom’s heart. Let them know that this is definitely not the case, and keep a photo of them at your bedside, where they can see it during their visits. Involve your child as much as possible with the new baby by asking their opinion about the new baby. Talk to them about things that they did when they were tiny. Take plenty of photos of your toddler with the new baby.
 
Resist the urge to give your child a gift from the new baby - even a toddler will realise that it is not possible that a new baby can do this. Simply keep your children involved with each other as much as possible - they will eventually bond in their own time. It is normal for a child to feel somewhat uncomfortable when a new baby arrives, but it is very rare that your child feels displaced by the new arrival. More often than not, children are really excited about the new baby, but are quite confused by the change in mom instead.

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