You know how it is when you’re in a long relationship and have kids hanging off every one of your available limbs – date nights with the fella get put on the backburner. Or if not on the backburner, they mutate into what-you think-is-a-date-night-but-it’s-definitely-not-really-a-date night.
Example: watching telly with a bowl of cornflakes in hand after the kids have finally been put to bed. Oh, and don’t cod yourself that “Jamaica Nights” scented candle on the mantelpiece is adding any romance to proceedings – it’s not.
So, after reading this article what we want you to do is organise a date night STAT. We want you to sort out someone to mind the little terrors – whoops, sorry, we mean angels – book a fancy shmancy restaurant, get your hair done and pick out a lovely frock to wear. Oh and grab your fella. You’ll need him.
Here are 5 reasons why date nights are so important:
1. They get the spark going again
A date night is the equivalent of a relationship jump lead. When you have kids it can be easy to start to think of yourselves as just ‘parents’. Date nights are essential to make you both remember that you’re a couple, you’re just… you. Spending time together just the two of you is vital get the spark going again, to reconnect, to remember what attracted you to each other in the first place.
2. It’s nice to get done up
Simply put, a date night is a much-needed opportunity to wear a nice outfit! Not just for us but for our other halves too. We all need a reason to do ourselves up once in a while right? We mums mostly dress for comfort – God knows we love our stretchy leggings – but the hankering for putting on a sparky dress and a sexy pair of heels never really goes away.
3. They make your relationship a priority
No matter how long you’re together, it’s SO important to keeping working at your relationship. Making the time to go on regular date nights shows each other you’re not taking your relationship for granted.
4. They heat things up
You can probably attest to the fact that most date nights culminate in a little bit of rumpy pumpy. (Yes, we’ve just used the phrase ‘rumpy pumpy’, and for that we are eternally sorry.) But it stands to reason that reconnecting over a lovely meal or a new shared experience will reignite that sexy spark.
5. Because goddammit you need a break
We mums need date nights like a life raft at times. We need to step away from the washing machine, from the homework, from all the stresses of life and just relax and have FUN. And in this equal (or getting there!) society, our main man needs the exact same thing.
Do you need a date night pronto? Us too.
