Despite all of the changes in society, there's still a sizeable chunk of people who like to think that male bonding should only involve a football or some such.

 

But not this dad. 

 

Matt is an "Irishman with a heart of gold hidden underneath his tough-guy facade," according to his wife, Lori Duron. 

 

On her blog, raisingmyrainbow.com, Lori recently ran an article written by her hubby Matt, who discussed why he's been letting his eight-year-old son CJ do his makeup lately.

 

CJ has long been using his mum's makeup to give makeovers to his Barbies and a life-size mannequin, so Matt was unsurprised when he was the next guinea pig.

 

And he didn't think twice about letting him.

 

"Of course I said yes. Why wouldn't I? Why wouldn't I want to be a part of something that brings joy to my son's life?," wrote Matt, whose family live in Orange County.

 

"If I said no to something as trivial as allowing him to paint my face, what would I be teaching him?"

 

 

"I'd be teaching him that playing dress-up or giving his dad a makeover is something to be ashamed of or something to hide. I don't want to teach him that."

 

Matt is keen to raise his boy to be comfortable in his own skin, regardless of his passions and interests.

 

"I want to teach him that his dad wants to spend time with him no matter what we're doing. I want him to know that even though I'm not interested in makeup or fashion, I will play along as long as I get to sit and talk with him," wrote Matt, who's also dad to 12-year-old Chase. 

 

"While he's doing my makeup, he talks about everything. From what's going on at school to which eye-shadow brings out my blue eyes."

 

"When I agree wholeheartedly as he discusses what makeup colours go with my skin tone, I'm teaching him that his opinions and tastes matter to me. I'm teaching him that I'll listen to him when he wants to talk and I will find time for him even when I'm busy."

 

But most importantly of all is for young CJ to know that his dad values their relationship and that what they do together isn't important - it's that they do something together.

 

"My son doing my makeup is the same as a dad throwing a football with his son," he wrote.

 

 

"It’s not about what you are doing together; it’s about doing it together. It’s about encouraging your children to engage with you. It’s about spending time with your child doing something they enjoy doing."

 

"Allowing your children to be themselves is very important. There are activities I do with Chase that I don’t do with C.J. because they aren’t fun for him."

 

"There are activities I do with C.J. that Chase doesn’t want to do. And there are activities we all do together. Spending quality time with each of my sons helps strengthen my relationship with them."

 

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