A mum has struck a chord with women everywhere after penning a VERY honest post about how her relationship has changed with her husband after marriage and kids – and when we say honest, we mean honest!

 

Mel Watts, who writes mum blog The Modern Mumma, posted the piece on her Facebook page, after a sleepless night where she reflected on their lives as parents and partners.

 

Like many couples, Mel assumed things between her and her hubby wouldn’t change, but of course change they do, especially when little ones arrive on the scene!

 

“He was snoring his busy week away and I was wide awake thinking of all the things we used to do. How different we use to be,” she reflected, “I was mad at him for changing. I was mad at myself for changing. It is no one’s fault. It’s just a moment in our life where I can say – it's not all roses and handcuffs.

 

 

“The long date nights have gone. The sleep-ins are non-existent. The surprise weekends away, we can no longer afford them.

 

“The long hot showers, are now lukewarm and we’re tag teaming kids in between.

 

“The late nights are now laying there silently with our backs to each other hoping the other one will get up for the crying baby.

 

“The text messages that use to read about how much they love you and why. Now they're more likely “Babes got my period, get pads – wings. Don't forget the bloody wings. Hazelnut magnums, not the minis that means I have to eat three, I’d rather just eat two big ones. And whatever you and the kids want for dinner. Can’t cook dying.”

 

“Children are hard work. They do put a damper on things. Some people may be able to keep their s** together but some people, like us, we find it hard to balance.

 

“The children have become the number one priority and at some point we need to learn to put our relationship towards the top of that priority list. I think in time it will become that way again. You have to make it past these difficult times to get there. It's not that it’s even difficult, it’s just different. And sometimes different is really hard.

 

 

But it’s not all bad! In the piece Mel concedes that yes, things have changed. But have they changed for the worse? No, they haven’t. Instead their relationship has evolved into another chapter:

 

“I am still very very much in love with my husband. It’s just a different kind of relationship now.

 

“It’s commitment. It’s contentment. It’s frustrating. It’s repetitive. It’s another chapter in our life.

 

I know not all people go through this. But I have. I think it’s normal and I also think that I can’t be alone in this. Surely there are other people out there who feel the same?

 

“If someone asked me today “Did your relationship change over time?” I would answer - Yes. Nothing is going to be easy forever. Nothing is going to stay the same. And that’s okay. Life is all about the change. It’s about becoming together and staying together during the good, the ugly and the children.

 

Once you stop comparing yourselves to your old selves it becomes easier. Once you talk to each other about it you understand you're both feeling the same way. Of course it's worrying and of course it’s scary. No one likes change, and no one expects change. But just like everything else in life – relationships change.”

 

 

Fair play to Mel for exposing herself like this. We have a feeling it will help other women realise that they're not alone in what they're experiencing, Magnums, periods and all!

 

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