My husband's crush is no longer a laughing matter

My partner recently revealed he had a passing crush on a work colleague.

Almost paralysed with guilt, he approached me last July and spilled the beans.

As a woman who takes a fleeting fancy to almost any man I come in contact with, I was astounded by the guilt he was carrying around.

I told him to enjoy his passing crush and prepare himself for the next big one.

That was until I met her.

I had assumed that the woman who had caught my husband's attention during the summer was a stunning gal in her twenties - a woman who would view my husband in much the same way she viewed the office photocopier.

Helpful when you need it, but who wants to spend too much time around it?

I had justifed my husband's crush by elevating this woman to the realm of the unattainable - a Hollywood-esque head-turner who reduces men to jelly and women to green-eyed monsters.

Well, how wrong was I?

Upon being introduced to the person my husband had mentioned last July, I felt a cold sensation settle in the pit of my stomach.

She was completely ordinary.

Believe me, I know how unsisterly that sounds, but it jarred me to realise the person my husband fancied was no more than your standard working woman in her mid-thirties.

A woman, who I'm sure has her fair share of hang-ups and flaws – all of which my husband is apparently oblivious to.

I had equated my partner's attraction to that of a celebrity crush, but I couldn't have been more off-base.

If I was a friend of this woman, I'm sure I'd have an endless list of compliments for her, but as a passing stranger, I can't say I'd have too many.

And as the wife of the man who apparently fancies her, I had none.

After meeting her in the carpark of my husband's office two weeks ago, I struggled with the idea that he could find someone so ordinary so appealing.

This went far beyond an attraction based on looks, there was more to it and it horrified me.

Confiding in him, he assured me that the crush had lasted no more than a fortnight and was based largely on her IT capabilities and willingness to showcase her skills on Bring your Baking to Work Day.

But I don't know.

I'm worried.