An unexpected caesarean can be hard for a mother to deal with, especially after planning on having a natural delivery. However, it is important to realise that it is done for the health of your baby to ensure they arrive into the world as safely as possible.
Here are 4 ways to cope with an unexpected caesarean:
Talk about it
Whether you have just been told that you will undergo a caesarean or have already gone through it, it is important you talk about it. Use your time with your doctor accordingly and ask any questions that may be troubling you – they are there to help you. Talking to other mothers who have experienced an unplanned caesarean might also help you feel like you are not alone. Vent any pent up frustration - don’t keep it bottled in.
Accept it
It is important you don’t put yourself down or blame yourself if things don’t go as planned. This is especially true for mothers who can often feel like they are letting their baby down by not giving birth the natural way. You might feel angry, cheated and disappointed but understand that labour is unpredictable and the most important thing is getting your baby into your arms as safely as possible. Try to accept it - a doctor wouldn’t organise a caesarean without good reason.
Be proud of yourself
Be proud of yourself for getting through the 40 weeks of pregnancy. Whether you have a vaginal birth or a caesarean, you have done a fantastic job keeping your baby safe and healthy in your tummy. Be proud for accepting that getting your baby out safely is your priority, not what you dreamed of or how you may feel about a caesarean.
Understand it
Make sure you understand exactly why you are having or have had a caesarean section. Knowledge is key in making yourself feel better and understanding why it happened or is going to happen will give you some perspective. Do research, read books, ask questions - do whatever you need to do to completely understand why your planned labour is not going to plan.
