Whether planned or unplanned not every mum-to-be is lucky enough to be having a baby with the help and support of a partner. However, just because you don’t have traditional spousal support does not mean that you are completely on your own.

 

Understand your emotions

Expect to feel frightened and lonely at times and you will be able to handle it better. Even with the support of a partner, mums-to-be can feel pretty scared at times so don’t feel like you are on your own. Remember, your hormones are already all over the place and you are going to feel a lot more sensitive anyway, whether you have someone or not.

 

Get support from family and friends

Seek support from your family and friends – that’s what they’re there for. But if for some reason you can’t, talk to your midwife about any support groups you can visit. There are so many organisations that you can go to for advice and a listening ear – so never feel like you are on your own.

 

Look to the future

When you are feeling really low and down, think about what amazing things are just around the corner. Your baby’s first smile, first words, first steps and first time they tell you they love you – all your stress and fear will immediately dissolve when you see their tiny face.

 

Get a birthing partner

For some mums-to-be, going it alone in the labour ward is what they fear the most, but you needn’t be worried. Talk to a close friend or a trusted family member about them being there to hold your hand when you are giving birth. In fact, your own mum might jump at the chance to be there are soon as their grandchild is born. Don’t hesitate to ask.

 

Be prepared

You need to be extra prepared for when baby does finally arrive. So organise family members to visit with food or to baby sit so that you can catch up on sleep. If possible, have a friend or relative move into your house for the first few weeks. Not because you can’t do it on your own but a little helping hand, especially in the first few weeks, will be greatly appreciated.

 

Never think that you are alone or the first one to have a baby without the support of a partner – many women have been in the same situation as you and have done it and come out the other side smiling. 

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