Most new parents will tell you that the first few weeks and months after their baby arrives, there is very little, besides sleep, happening in their bedrooms! It’s perfectly normal to be tired and stressed during this transition period, but once you do start having sex again, there are a few secrets that every new parent should know about sex.
The first thing you should be doing as a couple is to redefine what you see as sex. A quickie, or even intimacy without sex, can be as satisfying as a full love making session, so do whatever you’re up for, rather than what you’ve always thought is ‘necessary.’
Change is good when it comes to setting. Even if you’ve always had sex in the bedroom, becoming a parent might teach you to seize the moment. And if that moment happens in the living room, in the garden or even in the car, go with it!
Talk more. Very few people remember that the brain is one of your most powerful sex organs. Talking, communicating, and sharing verbal intimacy can often lead to other kinds of intimacy, so make time to talk to your partner about things other than children, finances and other hum drum every day topics.
Your child’s nap times are prime love making opportunities. Even if it’s only an hour, you’d be amazed at what you can accomplish in an hour!
Getting a babysitter, and getting out of the house, whether it’s to a local hotel or a deserted beach, can be all you need to rekindle the romance, and if you both take the time and effort to seduce each other, you’ll find you have no trouble getting in the mood. Remember that seduction needn’t be a big gesture either. A take-away meal and a foot rub can be as much of a turn on for tired new mums as roses and champagne.
If you find that you’re in the mood while your child is in the room, then it’s also okay to go for it. In fact, as many as 60 percent of new parents confess that they’ve had sex with their child is in the room.
Finally, if nothing seems to be working, and you’re finding yourself frustrated, talk to your partner. Don’t be accusing though, and make sure that you discuss your feelings, not their lack of desire for sex.