A Reddit user discovered that her husband had taken a paternity test behind her back one day when she was washing his bag and found a booklet about how to do the test. They had been married for a year, and she wasn’t sure how she should feel, so she explained her situation on the Internet:
 
“When I confronted him, he said that it's not that he doesn't trust me, but that most couples trust each other and still there is this big percentage of cheating. So he wanted to make sure that the boy is his, even if he was quite sure it was, or something like that. He did the test behind my back and mailed it: the result was, of course, that yes, he is the father.”
 
She goes on to explain how she has always been faithful, and that he said he didn’t tell her “because I would take it the wrong way and get mad at him.”
 
The mum then asked other Reddit users for their opinions: “Am I wrong at feeling betrayed and distrusted?”
 
While you might have thought that most people would have agreed with the woman for feeling betrayed, it wasn’t quite so simple. Here are a mixture of the responses she got:
 
“It doesn't matter how much I trust and respect a woman, no matter how much the baby looks like me, there is nothing that I wouldn't do to be 100 % certain from the very start that a child is mine. It's not personal, it really has nothing to do with the woman as an individual. It's all about making damn sure that my own mind does not have any excuse to develop paranoia about paternity.”
 
“If it were me I would immediately seek marriage counseling. Those who distrust to the degree that they have to sneak around their partner's back to 'test' them have either probably done some sneaking around themselves or they have mental issues that need to be addressed. Get the counseling for the sake of your child.”
 
“I'm a guy, I just want to know with 100% certainty that the child is mine. As a woman you know it's yours, but unless a paternity test is done we can only go off what you say.”
 
“I think that if your relationship is rocky enough that you think a paternity test is necessary, you have serious issues that you need to talk about and address - ideally before bringing children into the mix.”
 
What do you think?

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