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When do most couples start having sex again after their baby is born?

Most doctors recommend waiting about six to eight weeks after the baby is born to resume sex. However, as most people are different, even more so when it comes to sex, the waiting period after the baby is born varies from couple to couple.
For instance, some couples said that they waited for about eight weeks after the baby was born and then had sex about two to three times per month. Then there are other couples that just cannot wait that long and start having sex in the first month after the birth of their baby. Sex is first and foremost on many couples’ minds after the birth of their baby and look forward to being intimate with each other again.
There are a few things to take into consideration though, before resuming sex after your baby is born. First of all, having a new little person in your home really takes it out of you. It takes some time before home life gets into a comfortable routine, and sex has to fit in somewhere in between.
Then again, even though you might really be in the mood very soon after the birth, your body might not allow you to have sex because it is still healing. Having a new baby in the home will definitely be tiring for both you and your husband. Even if your baby is not so demanding, he still has to be fed every few hours at first and this is really exhausting.

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There are some very good reasons that you would want to avoid sexual intercourse.
Your vagina will naturally shrink after delivery, as your body heals, but whether it returns to its original size, depends on a number of factors.
Your menstrual cycle usually starts towards the end of your breastfeeding phase, but how regular it is once it is back varies from woman to woman.
It is not uncommon for women to experience pain and discomfort during sex, for the first couple of months after having a baby.
The delaying effect that breastfeeding has on the return of normal menstruation has an effect on fertility and can be considered as a method of contraception – although it is not a very reliable one.
The Intrauterine System, or IUS, is an effective method of birth control that is safe to use while breastfeeding.
It is true that some women experience a drop in their sex drive while breastfeeding, however, this isn’t always the case.
The return to your normal cycle is not a hard and fast rule and it can take anything from a month to a year before your first post baby period happens.
It is entirely up to you and your husband as to when you want to start having sex after the birth of your baby. The best thing to do is to have patience and wait until your body is ready for sex after your baby is born.
As very often happens, if you are just too tired to have sex after a long day, then tell your husband. If he is understanding and clever, he will help you as much as he can. After all, you will both benefit from this.



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