40-year old Rowena Kincaid, who documented her battle with terminal cancer with her Before I Kick the Bucket programmes, has given the world a final gift – an inspirational letter she wrote to be read at her funeral.
And in the letter are some amazing, poignant rules to live by.
“It's a little surreal writing this, and it's hard to imagine myself not being alive anymore, while I do,” the BBC reports her writing. “But at least I can, and have the opportunity to do so.”
She began by saying what she would miss about the world (music, kisses, and hugs), before saying a final goodbye to her loved ones with her customary humour and zest.
And it was then she imparted her wise, inspiring advice.
“If there is any wisdom I can share with you it would be this,” she wrote.
- Be forever kind to yourself. Know your body and listen to your gut instincts at all times.
- Follow what it tells you and have faith in what you feel from it, it's there to protect you. I listened well and it looked after me for as much as it could.
- Acknowledge your weaknesses, as to do so is also a strength. To fight them or focus on them is a waste of time. So concentrate on the positives, then more positivity and strength will come your way.
- Remember a problem is only as big as you make it, no matter how bad it seems there are always solutions, and can always be overcome. It will only last as long as you allow it to.
- You can do whatever you dream. Don't stop yourself from living it, as it will only be you that does - You are the boss of your life, you have more control than you realise.
- Slow down sometimes and look around. Life does move fast and time is not your friend.
- Make time for the small things, the things we take for granted, as you will be surprised how good that feels. Do that thing you've always wanted to do, why wait?
- Love, but don't fall in love with the idea of love.
- Everyone you meet in your life will teach you something, whether they are in it for a short time, or forever. What they teach you, in time, you will see is a gift.
- Always and never forget; to believe in yourself.”
So incredibly wise. Our thoughts are with Rowena’s family and loved ones, who no doubt have a gaping hole in their lives with the loss of this wonderful, brave woman.
