Child won't take no for an answer? Keeps asking 'but why?' all the time? Chances are you've got a strong-willed child on your hands. 


While you might find yourself feeling envious of the quiet kid at the cafe or the one who isn't a picky eater, your child's hard-headed tendencies can actually be a blessing in disguise. 


Here are 10 signs you've got a headstrong child, and why it can actually be a good thing...


They want to learn for themselves



If you tell your child to do something, good luck. But if they're allowed to be te one to choose, they love to cooperate. Things actually go smoother than if they weren't given any independence. Yes, this can be tiring for you, but it actually builds trust between you and your child. 


They don't like being pulled away from things


When strong-willed kids are doing something, they're giving it their all. That's why it can be hard for them when they're asked to put it aside for a moment and do something else. But look at it this way: that determination will serve them well in later life. 


They have thoughts on pretty much everything 



These are the kids who won't wear a dress on it if it has too many buttons. While that can be annoying for you, it's good for them. Research shows that kids who are stubborn and sure of themselves are more likely to be successful and make more money.


They have a strong sense of right/wrong


If your headstrong child thinks that something’s unfair, they will do their best to avoid doing it, even if that means locking horns with you. Again, this conviction and strength-of-mind will help them to stand up for themselves as adults.


They're not afraid to be different



While all kids are susceptible to peer pressure in their teen years, young headstrong kids rarely care what their schoolmates' think - or what you think, for that matter. But this is good. It means they're confident and can think for themselves, after all. 


They drain you during arguments


If your response to 'why?' isn't convincing, headstrong kids will pull you up on it, even if it means devoting half an hour to talking it out. They could make good lawyers, some day...


They want to make all the decisions



Reckon you're in charge because you're the grown-up? Well, your little one doesn't. It's not that they don't respect you, though. It's just that they want to express themselves. They're not the wallflower types, and that's a good thing for their future. 



They're stubborn and particular



Sure, it's annoying that they feel the need to melt down over the slightest change, or the smallest little problem, but this unwavering self-assurance will ensure they don't get walked all over down the line. 


They push and push and push...


All kids test the boundaries, but headstrong kids go that bit further. They're not necessarily being disobedient, they're just naturally adventurous and want to explore the world for themselves. And be honest: would you rather they sat quietly and watched things happening from the sidelines? Thought not. 


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