Between taking your temperature to determine ovulation and injecting yourself with hormones, the business of dealing with treatments for infertility and aids to conception, making a baby can be anything but romantic. Sometimes the two of you must have intercourse because of what the calendar says, not because your mood or desire dictates it.
The more often a month passes with no baby, the more the act of intercourse becomes perceived as an act of failure.
How do you combat this? Experts say it’s important for couples to concentrate on making love on the days when you know you are not fertile. Thus, intercourse on those days is strictly for pleasure and enjoyment. Engage in foreplay and the romantic, sexual gestures you both enjoy. Don’t forget to ‘date’ one another. Fire up the candles for a cosy dinner!
Keep in mind the majority of couples trying to conceive will do so within a year if they maintain regular sex. The best way to conceive is to have sex every few days so that whenever your body ovulates, there is sperm there to fertilise the egg.
Do not let the drive to conceive overpower your drive to be in a physical relationship with your partner. Guard your sexual relationship and keep it precious.