Sadly, some older children can feel slightly left out or even pushed out by the imminent arrival, so it is vital you try to stay as connected with them as possible.
Talk to them about how you feel
Obviously what you talk to them about depends on your older child’s age, but things like describing how and why your back hurts or explaining your unending fatigue will help them not only feel a little more connected to you but also understand what is going on.
Ask their opinion on baby things
When you are picking up a cot or a buggy, ask your older child their opinion, or give them the final say. This way they will feel involved in the process, included in your decisions and not feel like they are being pushed out. They will also relish the fact that you trust them and think highly of their opinions, making them feel closer and more connected to you.
Involve them in the name choice
Choosing a name is probably one of the hardest things you can do, but by involving your child in the decision they will feel grownup, responsible, closer to you and even closer to their new brother or sister.
Spend quality time with them
Set aside time to spend with just them. Go do their favourite thing, see a movie or even do a bit of shopping, it doesn’t matter as long as it is just you and them spending time together before the arrival of your new baby.
Don’t talk about the baby all the time
You are no doubt excited about your imminent arrival, but try not to talk about your pregnancy all the time, as your little one might feel a little pushed out. Ask your older child about their day, talk about what you got up to while they were at school, whatever you like as long as every conversation isn't about the baby.
