Finding out you are pregnant unexpectedly can be a frightening and worrisome time.


While there are sure to be plenty of thoughts and scenarios going around and around your head, including a whole range of emotions, there are things you can do to help you feel better:


Recognise your emotions

Don’t bottle up your emotions and hide your feelings, especially to yourself. It doesn’t make you a bad mum to feel shocked, angry, afraid and even a little panicked – it makes you a normal human. Even those who had planned their pregnancy can go through a whole range of emotions.


Talk to people

Whatever you do don’t keep the news bottled up. If you don’t have a partner, confide in your friends or family or even express your fears and worries to your GP. If possible, to help put things into perspective, talk to others who have been in a similar situation.


Write down your worries

If you can't bear to talk to anyone about it just yet, write down your fears and concerns on a piece of paper and beside it write how you can feel better. Sometimes just seeing it in black and white can help you put things into perspective.


Get educated

For many women who didn’t plan on having a baby just yet, an unplanned one can be scary because they don’t know much about the pregnancy journey. Ease any fears by educating yourself on what it’s like to carry a baby - such as what happens to your body - to help you put things in perspective and ease any fears. 


Think of the future

An unplanned pregnancy can make women feel like the things they wanted to do can’t be achieved snympre, but that’s not true. While some things might need to be put aside for a bit or rearranged, dreams don’t need to be squashed. You can still reach your career goals, continue with education and even maintain your friendships. It is important you think positively and don't dwell on any negative thoughts. 


If you are worried or finding it hard to cope with the news, talk to your local GP or someone you trust. 



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