No mum enjoys a tantrum, especially when you're surrounded by half the world judging you.
But there are ways to diffuse tantrums before they become full-on meltdowns...
Know the triggers
It's no surprise that toddlers are more likely to get cross if they're tired or hungry. Let's face it - you're not at your best then either!
Think ahead
Once you know what their general triggers are, you can create a game plan ahead of time to dodge potential tantrums.
Remember, it's way easier to change your errand routine than dealing with a child having a full-blown fit in front of half the neighbours.
Be positive
Compliment their good behaviour and point out positives before things have a chance to go downhill.
This shows that you appreciate their good behaviour and that pride will be incentive enough for them to keep going the way they're going.
Distract, distract, distract!
Think your child is about to kick off? Stop them in their tracks by averting their attention to something else.
Whether it's a simple task you get them to do, or a funny joke you tell, distraction is more powerful than you know.
Give them a mission
Ask your child to do a task or chore. This will make them feel like they're on the same team as you and are not being dragged around against their will.
Get them to help find the items you need in the store, or ask them to help bag them at the end. Simple things will make them feel more involved.
Prepare them in advance
Prevent unpleasant breakdowns by explaining what you are going to be doing.
If your little one thinks you're just going to the shops, but it turns out you're heading to the shops, pharmacy and dry cleaners, they'll likely get frustrated.
At least if they know what's coming, they can prepare themselves for it a bit.
Be understanding
It's always good to show empathy when your child is upset, even if what they're upset about is minor.
It will help them to feel heard and can prevent them from acting out or making a scene just to have their feelings validated.
But this doesn't mean you need to give into all of their demands.
Keep it light
Don't let yourself get stressed ahead of time. If you start worrying about every little thing that might happen, and what others will think if it does, you're already setting a negative tone to the trip.
Your child could then pick up on that, and start mirroring your negativity with bad behaviour.
